I didn't realize how long it had been since I added anything to this so-called "BLOG"... I guess so much has happened since September that for awhile I didn't think I'd ever write anything else (or have an original thought left in my head for that matter).
So what's happened since September?
Probably the biggest thing to take up the last three plus months: Bought a house. Yep. Bought a house, nice one, too. Life is simply sooo much better! I could write a lot on this but onward. Three months of catching up.
Before we bought the house, we had some real fun--broken bone #1. This particular night (goodness I've even forgotten when it was), Jimmy crawled out of the crib yet again, but this time there was a resounding BOOMMM, and I must say I didn't hesitate to find out what happened. Anyways, I found him on the floor in a soundless cry that concerned me but at the time I thought it was merely because he was scared. I brought him to bed with me and he cried, I gave him some Tylenol because I thought he might be sore and he dozed off for awhile. After a couple hours he woke up and cried again (he was in bed with me). After more coddling, he fell back asleep and when we did our morning routine, he definitely wasn't himself and at day care, Gail, his provider, had a hard time consoling him. The next day he was still a bit cranky but otherwise himself.
Finally, by Friday as I was dressing him and lifting his arm over his head, he screamed as if in pain. In that moment I realized that he was hurt and I felt like the worst mother in the world. I felt ever so awful, since when I was about 9 years old I broke my collarbone, so I could in a sense relate.
But I called the doctor's office, got him x-rayed (what an experience THAT was) and sure enough...broken collarbone and frankly there is nothing you can do about a broken collar bone when a child is that young. After I knew, I more carefully dressed him, changed the way I picked him up and he learned to not use his hurt side as much, and I left the gate down on his crib.
As I said, we moved into a nice new house and right about that time, we quickly learned that we needed much more serious baby proofing. This new house has a finished basement and underneath the stairs there is some metal sheeting to protect the stairs. Anyways, you can't sneak up or down these stairs whatsoever. I had meant to buy the door knob thingys to prevent Jimmy from opening the cellar door, but put it off.
Then, in one of those sickening moments, Jimmy fell down those cellar stairs. I didn't see it happen but rather heard it. His father was standing at the top of the stairs as it happened. We had placed a box in front of the cellar door, thinking that it would stop him from opening the door. Boy were we stupid! In an instant, my husband screamed, "Oh MY GOD!" Then Boom, BOOM, BOOOOMM--it was the noise that the metal sheeting made as he tumbled down. At the bottom of the stairs he laid there. He seemed a bit out of breath, so he cried rather feebily and I could tell he was very scared. Luckily, the only injury was a scratch on his leg. Honestly, less than two hours later he was standing on the back of the couch and was his "old" self.... Sigh...
The lastest incident was yesterday. It was a nice flip over an office chair. But he was farting around as ever not moments later but notheless it was scary. It was the "cusp of the moment" when you didn't know if you'd be consoling your child or burying them with a broken neck. Someday I'll tell you about the incidents at his cousin's birthday party. Sigh... More white hairs and anxiety to keep me awake.
What happens when he turns three?
Monday, January 31, 2005
X-Files, Animal Planet, and Epidurals: My Birth Story
Being a first-time mom, I could only guess at what was ahead of me when I went into labor. Since my due date was December 9th, I repeatedly kept telling people, “I’ll work until at least Thanksgiving.” However, Thanksgiving morning at 3 am, I began to see the first signs of labor. All kinds of thoughts were going through my head. Seems I had been having little contractions for some time, but I simply dismissed them as some minor discomfort, being nine months pregnant and all. As time went on-—the longest 3 hours of my life-—I realized that I was now in labor since they were starting to get more intense yet still sporadic.
I finally woke up my husband and wondered if I should go to my mom’s for Thanksgiving dinner. I decided to go. The contractions continued throughout the day, random and erratic as they were in the early hours of the morning—they’d be five minutes apart, then a half an hour apart. It wasn’t until well into the night, after watching The Matrix, that my husband and I determined that the contractions were getting steadier and closer together. After a quick call to my doctor, off to the hospital we went.
While I should have been relaxed I was not. My husband’s driving makes me nervous, so I had to deal with that too. Finally we arrived and first there was a wait for paperwork, which irritated me to no end since I filled out a whole s***load of paperwork well ahead of time and they seemed to think no such paperwork existed.
Then we went to the maternity ward and waited and waited. I tried to sit through a contraction while sitting in a rocking chair, something I saw in the childbirth class. Not a pleasant way to sit through a contraction if you ask me! Finally, we get into a room, get undressed and examined and I’m only 1 cm dilated. I was amazed. All that work and only 1 cm? Then, they say when you’re 3 cm we’ll admit you (in other words no drugs for awhile). That was not fun at all.
Finally they said they’d admit me, but because I was an older patient, I would need to be strapped to a monitor, and I wouldn’t be able to walk around or move. Before that happened, they allowed me to take a shower where my husband hosed me down with nice, hot water. This was another thing I saw in the childbirth class, and it was definitely a more pleasant way to deal with contractions. I later found out that I had pressed my forehead into the tiled shower wall so hard during contractions that I had a sore spot the next day. Still it was the best half hour of the whole experience so far.
Then I had to pick a drug, don’t ask me which one they gave me, all I know is that it was a “narcotic” and that my husband and I sat through most of an X-Files marathon after they gave it to me. At some point we both fell asleep. Then, I must have heard something in my sleep from the X-Files, and felt a contraction. I thought to myself, “A contraction in the X-Files?” It was then I realized the narcotic was wearing off. The nurse who attended me then told me that they could only give me one more dose of this particular drug during the duration of my labor. The next option would be an epidural, and they explained all the risks, but I said go for it. My husband seemed to think I didn’t need it, and wanted to smack him.
They gave me the epidural and by that time it was morning and the X-Files marathon was over. I then turned the TV to some series of funny animal videos showcased on the Animal Planet cable channel. Periodically, they’d move my legs; the sensation, or lack of it, was weird.
Finally I saw my doctor, and as she checked me my water broke—what a mess! Then there was a spell where the contractions slowed down, so they gave me something to speed them up again. Next, what seems like in the blink of an eye, I was getting that urge to bear down despite the epidural. Although I experienced 15 hours of hard labor, it seems that it wasn’t a very long period of time as I’m relating it.
Someone told me to push…”Push like you’re having a bowel movement.” So I pushed. “No, that was a bowel movement.” What’d they expect?!? Anyways, after some pushing, not very long, they give me a episiotomy, at which I yelped, “Ouch!” One nurse turned to look at me very strangely, like I wasn’t supposed to feel it. Yeah, right.
The nurse who had been tending me all night, said to me chirpily, “Can you tell I eased back on the epidural?!?” Yeah, honey, I can tell. But soon after that I didn’t care, because my baby came out and that warm slimy creature was on my chest but a moment. I touched him, and I murmured, “My baby,” and he was whisked away to be checked over, given his Apgar and all that stuff. But in that instant the X-Files, Animal Planet and the epidural were very quickly forgotten. Jimmy had arrived and nothing else mattered.
I finally woke up my husband and wondered if I should go to my mom’s for Thanksgiving dinner. I decided to go. The contractions continued throughout the day, random and erratic as they were in the early hours of the morning—they’d be five minutes apart, then a half an hour apart. It wasn’t until well into the night, after watching The Matrix, that my husband and I determined that the contractions were getting steadier and closer together. After a quick call to my doctor, off to the hospital we went.
While I should have been relaxed I was not. My husband’s driving makes me nervous, so I had to deal with that too. Finally we arrived and first there was a wait for paperwork, which irritated me to no end since I filled out a whole s***load of paperwork well ahead of time and they seemed to think no such paperwork existed.
Then we went to the maternity ward and waited and waited. I tried to sit through a contraction while sitting in a rocking chair, something I saw in the childbirth class. Not a pleasant way to sit through a contraction if you ask me! Finally, we get into a room, get undressed and examined and I’m only 1 cm dilated. I was amazed. All that work and only 1 cm? Then, they say when you’re 3 cm we’ll admit you (in other words no drugs for awhile). That was not fun at all.
Finally they said they’d admit me, but because I was an older patient, I would need to be strapped to a monitor, and I wouldn’t be able to walk around or move. Before that happened, they allowed me to take a shower where my husband hosed me down with nice, hot water. This was another thing I saw in the childbirth class, and it was definitely a more pleasant way to deal with contractions. I later found out that I had pressed my forehead into the tiled shower wall so hard during contractions that I had a sore spot the next day. Still it was the best half hour of the whole experience so far.
Then I had to pick a drug, don’t ask me which one they gave me, all I know is that it was a “narcotic” and that my husband and I sat through most of an X-Files marathon after they gave it to me. At some point we both fell asleep. Then, I must have heard something in my sleep from the X-Files, and felt a contraction. I thought to myself, “A contraction in the X-Files?” It was then I realized the narcotic was wearing off. The nurse who attended me then told me that they could only give me one more dose of this particular drug during the duration of my labor. The next option would be an epidural, and they explained all the risks, but I said go for it. My husband seemed to think I didn’t need it, and wanted to smack him.
They gave me the epidural and by that time it was morning and the X-Files marathon was over. I then turned the TV to some series of funny animal videos showcased on the Animal Planet cable channel. Periodically, they’d move my legs; the sensation, or lack of it, was weird.
Finally I saw my doctor, and as she checked me my water broke—what a mess! Then there was a spell where the contractions slowed down, so they gave me something to speed them up again. Next, what seems like in the blink of an eye, I was getting that urge to bear down despite the epidural. Although I experienced 15 hours of hard labor, it seems that it wasn’t a very long period of time as I’m relating it.
Someone told me to push…”Push like you’re having a bowel movement.” So I pushed. “No, that was a bowel movement.” What’d they expect?!? Anyways, after some pushing, not very long, they give me a episiotomy, at which I yelped, “Ouch!” One nurse turned to look at me very strangely, like I wasn’t supposed to feel it. Yeah, right.
The nurse who had been tending me all night, said to me chirpily, “Can you tell I eased back on the epidural?!?” Yeah, honey, I can tell. But soon after that I didn’t care, because my baby came out and that warm slimy creature was on my chest but a moment. I touched him, and I murmured, “My baby,” and he was whisked away to be checked over, given his Apgar and all that stuff. But in that instant the X-Files, Animal Planet and the epidural were very quickly forgotten. Jimmy had arrived and nothing else mattered.
Tuesday, September 21, 2004
Always Something to Worry About
My grandmother is a worrier. Always has been. I guess I know now why she's such a worrier. There's just so much that can go so wrong, especially when it comes to kids. I, however, am much much worse. I create these ridiculous "worst-case-scenarios." As a pessimist, I guess it just goes with the territory.
I see dark lights and a field next the parking lot where I was parked last night while browsing Toys R Us with Jimmy. What would happen if Jimmy bolted from his stroller and ran into this field, in the dark, no lights, no way for me to see him? Of course, I highly doubt this would happen because of his fascination with lights, so my guess is that he'd either try and climb into my car or go back into the store. I do like to take him places, though, to spend time with him, especially to get him away from the dreaded TV (getting reaaalll sick of Elmo & the Teletubbies these days). Heck one day he grabbed a container of miniature cupcakes and took off running in the grocery store. Luckily his dad was with us to grab him before he ran out of the store (yes, that is where he was heading). But I always panic about the "what ifs" of life, even not so typical things like auto accidents, going to any store or mall without being strapped into a stroller (he did pretty good last night at Toys R Us when I let him run with a mini-basketball until he ran into the back storeroom...hard to explain to him why he can't go in there).
So not only do I worry about the normal things, but I worry about the abnormal things. I have too many "Mildred Moments" as I call them. There's always something to worry about.
I see dark lights and a field next the parking lot where I was parked last night while browsing Toys R Us with Jimmy. What would happen if Jimmy bolted from his stroller and ran into this field, in the dark, no lights, no way for me to see him? Of course, I highly doubt this would happen because of his fascination with lights, so my guess is that he'd either try and climb into my car or go back into the store. I do like to take him places, though, to spend time with him, especially to get him away from the dreaded TV (getting reaaalll sick of Elmo & the Teletubbies these days). Heck one day he grabbed a container of miniature cupcakes and took off running in the grocery store. Luckily his dad was with us to grab him before he ran out of the store (yes, that is where he was heading). But I always panic about the "what ifs" of life, even not so typical things like auto accidents, going to any store or mall without being strapped into a stroller (he did pretty good last night at Toys R Us when I let him run with a mini-basketball until he ran into the back storeroom...hard to explain to him why he can't go in there).
So not only do I worry about the normal things, but I worry about the abnormal things. I have too many "Mildred Moments" as I call them. There's always something to worry about.
Monday, September 20, 2004
I'll sleep when I'm dead...
Ah, the many, many things about parenthood that you've heard about but never quite understood or believed. Probably the biggest I didn't plan on was sleep. Precious sleep.
First, when my son was first born it was the waking every few hours to eat. After awhile those spells grew longer and longer apart, so I actually got blocks of sleep.
Next were the nights of relative quiet (sleeping through the night), but then life's anxieties and stresses kept me awake. Seems like there is a direct relationship between the nights I don't get much sleep and the nights when Jimmy wakes up crying or fussing. The nights I finally get my mind to quiet down at 3 am are the ones where Jimmy has nightmares or is cold or whatever. I typically can crawl out of bed and plug in the pacifer and he goes back to sleep. One night last week, that didn't work after two tries. Finally, I brought him into bed with me (and yes this was a night that was extremely anxiety ridden and despite a couple hours of TV watching and reading, I still couldn't get my mind to relax). He fussed for a few moments but then he finally drifted off to sleep, as did I. I remember waking up with that cute little pacifier filled face and remembering the days when we slept together all the time. Memories of sleep deprivation that I actually cherish.
Now of course, Jimmy can crawl out of the crib whenever he wants and does whatever he wants (I call it his Danger Boy routine). Climbing all over furniture, turning on the TV, playing his special messages on the answering machine, chasing the cat, and even playing in the bathroom. This morning he did this at 5:30 am (at least that's when he woke me up...I don't have any idea when he woke up).
So sleep comes in batches again. I guess a night of good sleep is a myth in my house. It will be until I'm dead... or perhaps when Jimmy is in college.
First, when my son was first born it was the waking every few hours to eat. After awhile those spells grew longer and longer apart, so I actually got blocks of sleep.
Next were the nights of relative quiet (sleeping through the night), but then life's anxieties and stresses kept me awake. Seems like there is a direct relationship between the nights I don't get much sleep and the nights when Jimmy wakes up crying or fussing. The nights I finally get my mind to quiet down at 3 am are the ones where Jimmy has nightmares or is cold or whatever. I typically can crawl out of bed and plug in the pacifer and he goes back to sleep. One night last week, that didn't work after two tries. Finally, I brought him into bed with me (and yes this was a night that was extremely anxiety ridden and despite a couple hours of TV watching and reading, I still couldn't get my mind to relax). He fussed for a few moments but then he finally drifted off to sleep, as did I. I remember waking up with that cute little pacifier filled face and remembering the days when we slept together all the time. Memories of sleep deprivation that I actually cherish.
Now of course, Jimmy can crawl out of the crib whenever he wants and does whatever he wants (I call it his Danger Boy routine). Climbing all over furniture, turning on the TV, playing his special messages on the answering machine, chasing the cat, and even playing in the bathroom. This morning he did this at 5:30 am (at least that's when he woke me up...I don't have any idea when he woke up).
So sleep comes in batches again. I guess a night of good sleep is a myth in my house. It will be until I'm dead... or perhaps when Jimmy is in college.
Friday, September 17, 2004
Let There Be "Light"
"Light"--one of the few words my son is now speaking with any sort of clarity. Of course along with this comes his fascination with lights, especially turning light switches on and off, even if it means tumbling off places where he shouldn't be. Sigh. How do they survive past this age! Whew!
He also says "baby" with some clarity, but I worry. For example, this morning as I dropped him off at day care, I couldn't coax one word out of him to say that he's hungry. Instead he cries, grabs cups off the countertop, fusses, etc. Does everything but utter a sound, a squeak so he would say he's hungry. I ask him, "Jimmy, do you want to eat?" While I'm doing this, I make the sign for eat (I've taught him a couple signs--"more" and "eat" are the only ones he's ever learned, although I tried to teach him "milk" and "banana"). Well, now a days he doesn't even give me the sign for eat, he just whines and cries. I guess I'll keep trying, but I worry.
We do play a little game to get him to say "milk." I say "MMMMMMMilk!" And he gets the "MMMMMMM" part and then says "ucky uck," so he's clearly trying to pronounce it. And more and more words are coming out and they're more and more clear. Heck sometimes he says things with such clarity, I say to my husband, "Did you hear that?!?"
He can laugh like the Count on Sesame Street and he's said "Uh-oh" like the Teletubbies at least once. And he mimics and can point to his nose and ears (I ask him where his eyes are and he points to his ears...eh, he's learning!).
Well, at least I can hear him say light...so let there be "light" and lots of it!
He also says "baby" with some clarity, but I worry. For example, this morning as I dropped him off at day care, I couldn't coax one word out of him to say that he's hungry. Instead he cries, grabs cups off the countertop, fusses, etc. Does everything but utter a sound, a squeak so he would say he's hungry. I ask him, "Jimmy, do you want to eat?" While I'm doing this, I make the sign for eat (I've taught him a couple signs--"more" and "eat" are the only ones he's ever learned, although I tried to teach him "milk" and "banana"). Well, now a days he doesn't even give me the sign for eat, he just whines and cries. I guess I'll keep trying, but I worry.
We do play a little game to get him to say "milk." I say "MMMMMMMilk!" And he gets the "MMMMMMM" part and then says "ucky uck," so he's clearly trying to pronounce it. And more and more words are coming out and they're more and more clear. Heck sometimes he says things with such clarity, I say to my husband, "Did you hear that?!?"
He can laugh like the Count on Sesame Street and he's said "Uh-oh" like the Teletubbies at least once. And he mimics and can point to his nose and ears (I ask him where his eyes are and he points to his ears...eh, he's learning!).
Well, at least I can hear him say light...so let there be "light" and lots of it!
Thursday, September 16, 2004
Planning the "Essentials"
Okay, I was going to call this inaugural post "Planning the Poop," but thought that'd be too much information at the beginning. But, I had a relevation this morning about the evolution of the human female, most notably, the process of elimination (a much more delicate definition).
Like many other females may have definitely noticed, men take an inordinate amount of time to use the bathroom. If a man is absent from the room for more than 20 minutes and can't be found, well you really know where he is. Men take soooooo long to do their business, it can be a problem, especially when you only have one bathroom! Anyways, most men I know take reading material with them since they're gonna be in their for the long haul (and it isn't pleasant afterword but that's another story).
All I know is most women go into the bathroom, sit down and before you can read a paragraph in this weeks People magazine, you're done. Simple as that. However, now that I'm the mother of a 22-month-old, active healthy baby boy, I know why that is.
This morning he woke me up at 4:30 (waaa--plop in goes the pacifier for a little more rest, hopefully). Not long after that I hear thumps and vocalizations, but I'm not concerned. He has a habit of waking up and kicking the wall as if to say, "WAKE UP MOMMY!" But lately, yes lately he's been playing the Danger Boy game. Instead of just contently fussing in his crib, he's been crawling/climbing out and getting into trouble. At this age, it is exploration time.
So, now with his wandering ways I need to figure out the where's and when's of normal life--breakfast, a shower, and yes, elimination. THAT'S why women can take care of the potty business so quickly. We've evolved so we can one minute toot and poop and the next disentangle the fly strip from our child's hands.
Yup, that's it. Pure evolution. I got lots to learn about motherhood!
Like many other females may have definitely noticed, men take an inordinate amount of time to use the bathroom. If a man is absent from the room for more than 20 minutes and can't be found, well you really know where he is. Men take soooooo long to do their business, it can be a problem, especially when you only have one bathroom! Anyways, most men I know take reading material with them since they're gonna be in their for the long haul (and it isn't pleasant afterword but that's another story).
All I know is most women go into the bathroom, sit down and before you can read a paragraph in this weeks People magazine, you're done. Simple as that. However, now that I'm the mother of a 22-month-old, active healthy baby boy, I know why that is.
This morning he woke me up at 4:30 (waaa--plop in goes the pacifier for a little more rest, hopefully). Not long after that I hear thumps and vocalizations, but I'm not concerned. He has a habit of waking up and kicking the wall as if to say, "WAKE UP MOMMY!" But lately, yes lately he's been playing the Danger Boy game. Instead of just contently fussing in his crib, he's been crawling/climbing out and getting into trouble. At this age, it is exploration time.
So, now with his wandering ways I need to figure out the where's and when's of normal life--breakfast, a shower, and yes, elimination. THAT'S why women can take care of the potty business so quickly. We've evolved so we can one minute toot and poop and the next disentangle the fly strip from our child's hands.
Yup, that's it. Pure evolution. I got lots to learn about motherhood!
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